Greetings beautiful family!
I hope this message reaches you in high spirits and positive energy.
I wanted to ask everyone about the experiences of Wombanhood from the transition in age from the 20's to the 30's.... This has been playing on my mind quite a lot. So I thought it would be inspiring to hear your stories about your Self or anyone you know who transitioned and what your/their experiences were....
Just some Q's for reflection ;o) ... In your words/thoughts:
~ How was the journey in your 20's compared to your 30's?
~ Do you feel more confident in your 30's than in your 20's?
~ What would be your top 5 advice tips/words of wisdom (life, spirituality, relationships, friendships, finances etc) for the 20-something circle sisters out here to achieve greatness?
~ Did you achieve everything you wanted in your 20's?
~ In your words, what defines/highlights a sacred womban in her 20's and in her 30's?
~ What did you feel like when you hit the earth-day of 30?
....Or is age just a number?!?
Give thanks!
Good One!
I must say I did cartwheels into my thirties. I will be thirty-one two weeks and now that I think about it my 30th year was quit a transition. Last year this time my family and I almost lost everything. I spent my thirtieth EarthDay in a hotel trying to figure out where we were going to live. The events that followed were trying and tiresome. Birthdays 20-29 I partied and celebrated blind to where my life was really headed. I battled being a wife a and a mother not really understanding my role. Thirty knocked me in the head (30; 3+0=3. Number of Esu; diety of the crossroads and that is where I was) I either had to get it right or allow my family to suffer because I was not being all I knew I could be. I realized the things I did in my twenties and my thought pattern couldn't go with me into my thirties. I had to become a new person to compliment my pending wisdom. After realization came action. I began meditating more, letting go of cetain people and habits. Here I am a year later beautiful home. greater appreciation for my family, a growing business, and on track with the goals I set for myself. With that I feel much more confident in my abilities as a mother, wife, healer, business owner, etc. I understand life's process. So this year I will be celebrating my Earthday in a new way, a more grown up way.
My Five tips for the 20 somethings:
1) Find your Spiritual connection. The body cannot function if the Soul is not fed.
2) Set your goals and stick to 'em. You don't want to live a life full of coulda, shoulda, woulda's. Live life like a race horse with blinders. Stay focused. In our twenties we tend to go in several directions none of them leading to our goals
3) EGO: Eliminating God Out of a situation. Keep 'her' in the closet.
4) Love yourself, Love yourself, Love yourself.
5) Find your special gift and give back to the community. Twenties can be full of vanity and self absorbancy. Build character by helping others.
Thankyou for the opportunity to share and read the other Sista's stories.
Much Love,
Aremisa
www.indigenousremedies.com
very inspiring post Aremisa ;0)
I turned 30 on Jan, 24. And I have to admit i was ready to leave all of the chaos of my 20s behind. I felt like I closed the door on childhood and officially stepped into my grown woman stage. I know that I still have a lot to learn, but I am armed with the wisdom that I earned in my 20s, all those bumps and bruises and knots on the head were not in vain. I feel very confident, self assured and proud that I made it this far.My spiritual life is blooming, my children are growing, my relationship is stable and i am not afraid of the future ...all is well
here are my suggestions for embracing 30
1) if you have not begun to follow your art, your passion START NOW. Make time to develop into the artist you always were
2) take care of our health. Too many African-American women suffer from preventative disease. take eating well seriously
3) BE yourself, embrace you your really are, love who you really are, shine
4) Know your wisdom & power make use of all the lessons you learned in your 20s
Odokemi
Loving the transistion
I have to be honest, I love where the journey has led me. It has not always been easy to let go, face the truth, and make changes. I look at my 20's and I kringe at all the mistakes I made. I had children early and did not get a chance to do all the things I wanted to do because of my choices. Although my children are a blessing to me, I have to say if I had it to do all over again, I would have waited. I had my children while I was still wet behind the ears. I tell my children to make sure they wait and get a chance to experience life before they have children.
My 30 birthday was great, I didn't party or get drunk (I did that on my 21st b'day) I just chilled. The special thing was the fact that my friends got me a cake with the ugliest picture. You know the picture when you are not paying attention and you are just hanging around the house (with your hair all over your head). It was funny!
I am more confident now in my 30's and my confidence continues to grow. But, becoming 30 is not what makes you strong or brings growth. With the age of 30 must also come the desire to change and the willingness to take a deep look at yourself.
For my sisters, I would tell you all the following
1. PRAY everyday and even a couple times a day.
2. LIVE because life is to short. Don't be so serious all the time
3. LEARN because we are never to old to gain new information.
4. LOVE and love hard. Most of all LOVE THY SELF
5. FORGIVE because I can promise that the person you have an attitude with is not thinking about you. I did not say forget. Just because you are growing does not mean you are now required to be a sucker for everyone.
Peace be unto you.
Ogechi "Jah's time is the best time."
Reflection
Thank you for providing an opportunity to reflect on this rite of passage!
I often say to people that I weep for the young woman I was in my early 20s. That’s not to say that I don’t respect that time in my life or give thanks to the Creator for the journey, but I realize that I “bumped” my head a lot (in relationships, money management, etc) because I didn’t pay attention to the fact that my actions created my experiences. In other words, I was not conscious, but reactionary. As I gained more knowledge of self and became more introspective (in my late 20s) my load was lighter and more joyous because my actions were proactive, not based on cleaning up a mess I’d made. Each step became more intentional and what I truly wanted to happen in my life quickly manifested. My 30s have become a commitment to creating more of what I want to happen and truly being thankful for who I am spiritually and physically. I can say with confidence that I am so very comfortable in my skin, and it’s a beautiful feeling! I honor and appreciate myself, and because I do, others do as well.
My words of wisdom for the 20-something circle sisters to achieve greatness would be:
(1) Read about the greatness that came before you! Reading about powerful Africana women of antiquity and modern-day is inspiring and eye-opening. They are your guiding light.
(2) Find a spiritual base, one that feels comfortable for you and keeps you grounded.
(3) Be patient with yourself; elevating to your highest self is a process.
(4) Surround yourself with people who are true reflections of you! Don’t be afraid to move beyond relationships (family, friends, co-workers, boyfriends/girlfriends, etc.) that no longer support your growth.
(5) Remember that if you’re too comfortable, you’re not really growing! Life is about experiences. Embrace experiences that allow for change; often times that means doing things that are out of your comfort zone.
As far as whether or not I achieved everything in my 20s that I wanted I would say, for the most part,yes, and the journey was even more fulfilling when I did it on purpose!
Sacred womben in their 20s embrace change even in the midst of fearing it. They are willing to take the ride because they are aware that it leads to greater knowledge of self. Sacred womben in their 30s realize and manifest their spiritual strength and also know that their intuition (center) is leading them to fulfilling their higher purpose.
I am 36 now and when I reflect on my 30th Earthday and what I felt, it was happiness! I was ready to live life with commitment and positive intention.
~peace and blessings