Greetings Sisters,
This is a personal issue but I would appreciate your suggestions. I am not able (nor willing) to use the pill or iud and dh refuses to use a condom (there is no way I will be able to convince him either I have been trying for over a decade so it is time to just accept it and move on) I am not allowed to have children anymore my body is just not able to handle pregnancy. A few months ago I got pregnant and had a miscarriage this gave me a horrible mental scar and I don't ever want to go through that again. I have been considering sterilization after my gyno suggested that but there is this tiny soft voice in the back of my head asking: "what if in due time you will be healed and won't be able to concieve anymore?" as long as I cannot give that voice an answer I don't want to do something so permanent and drastic as sterilazation. I also don't know how I would handle a sterilazation mentally.
We have been using the maybe baby microscope and it worked real well but I didn't test one morning and I got pregnant I would love to use another natural method together with the maybe baby I just don't have a clue what to use. Do any of you have a suggestion?
Blessings,
Chayil
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I am for sure from many sisters I know who has told me neem plant is very good natural bc...
peace sistren!
pick up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility. it's WONDERFUL! and your consort can assist you with this method of birth control. It's a three part process of charting your cycle, checking your cervical fluid, and taking your basal body temperature.
i also recommend www.mymonthycycles.com for beginning the chart of your cycle...i LOVE it!...i didn't think that i'd stick with it like i have but i'm on my 16th cycle with them and it's great!
you can also insert a vitamin c tablet into yourself...it's a natural spermicide...
if your moontime is ever late...you can also do the insertion of a vitamin c tablet and/or take a blue million of them...they're water soluable so you can't OD on the C. black cohosh and yarrow teas are also good for bringing on the menses.
some women wait for themselves around the next corner and call the empty spot peace but the opposite of living is only not living ... Audre Lorde
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Thanks for the info sis
I've been using www.mymonthycycles.com for a few weeks now and I am starting to understand my period a lot better. After the miscarriage my cycle changed and I thought it was just irregular but when I put in all the dates from my last periods I noticed that I was regular twice a month!!! My cycle changed from 29 days to 24 days. I am not really pleased with that but at least now I know what is going on.
Thanks again!
Chayil
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this is hard for me too...
unfortunately i am on bc, my husband plans on getting snipped but for some reason we have not done it, i don't know that i feel comfortable with the finality of it.
i too cannot have another pregnancy which is why i am on the bc to prevent it. i hate it, but i feel at a lost of what else to do. we tried condoms, but after 10 years of not using any it just didn't go well, plus they relentlessly gave me uti's.
i would love to hear of any other suggestions.
-ki
"I'm making room for my joy"
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My dh offered to get
My dh offered to get "snipped" as well but since I am the one who is ill I refused, it is reversable but I just don't think a healthy body should be cut into to. I've had an iud but it gave me such horrible cramps I had it taken out about 5 yrs ago. The pill is just not an option I cannot handle hormones raging through my body.
I would recommend the maybe baby microscope to you and your dh and a course in natural family planning or if you are really familiar with your body and cycle you can just download the sofware for free and use that. After the miscarriage my cycle never returned to normal, so I am hesitent to use the software on my own. The microscope by itself works fine too but the tricky thing is that you have to test in the mornings and that would either mean testing daily or having to plan out when you will get romantic wich does not work in our case. Some mornings are so hectic that I jump out of bed and go bout the day simply forgetting about the microscope. This is a link to more info about it http://www.maybeit.com/ hope this helps some sis! I know how frustrating this is!
Btw I just love your blog and your art! I will definately save up to get one of those gorgeous shanti-bags! I showed it to dh yesterday and he told me look she named it after you LOL My indian family calls me shanti and my caribean friends call me paz caus my last name is dutch for peace LOL it was destined for me to own one of those bags ;-)
Blessings,
Chayil
ABSTAIN? Oh dear that would
ABSTAIN? Oh dear that would be a real tough one LOL Thanks for thinking along with me ladies I have decided to take a course @ familyplanning next month they will teach me how to "read" my body and fully understand my cycle. I pray that this will be the solution for us!
Give thanks!
Chayil
Wild Yam Root
Research wild yam root as a natural bc.
Damn...am sorry sis. But
Damn...am sorry sis. But this is a compromise thing tho...sterilisation is indeed drastic, iud or condoms are not as drastic. Otherwise abstain but then I know I can't so maybe little compromise.