OK, I met this guy seem to be a cool individual. Good conversation, polite, and funny, right OK. We talked everyday for about 10 days about future goal and accomplishments, what we seek in a relationship etc,etc,etc.. One day he asked me to invite him to my house and I basically told him that my home is a safe haven for my children & myself and that I don't invite men to my house out of respect for my children and their environment. Needless to say he didn't take this too well. He went into this sad story about his childhood how his mother gave him up and kept the rest of her 4 children and how he grew up in foster care until age 18 and that's when he went into the military. He continued to state how he didn't have no one so naturally when he met a woman he expect for her to be by her man's side(when did he become my man?) He continued to state how he was one of the few good men left and that there were many women lined up to take him.. Me being me wished him the best(lol) by all means go for it! I told him. So as the days passed he began to make little comments about how a man was head of the house hold and how a man should always take lead in a relationship, the woman should be the follower. Me being me tried my best to ignore him, but no he continued to try and instill this in me.

This was when I began to tell him that hey, I don't know what women you are use to dating but me as an individual will not tolerated anyone telling me how I should speak and act. (didn't go over too well). This past weekend I decided to let him know that I am not the woman for him. Our life styles are far too different and the fact that each time I mention one of my kids he seem to get kind of offended(red flag) So anyway we went to a local park to talk for a while (he rode with me) So basically we talked and I explained to him that maybe we should just stay acquaintance because my life is just far too busy to be in any type of relationship. (kids, work, business & school) there was no room for non-sense in my life at this point.

During this conversation that he seemed to ignore, he told me that he was going to jump into the pond ( fishing pond where swimming was prohibited..did I mention the reason why swimming was prohibited? polluted water) so I basically told him not once, not twice but three times that if he was to jump in the pool he would not be allowed to get in my (new) car. Him being the "MAN" decided to do it anyways not once but three times. I didn't say a word I just sat there and watch until he decided enough was enough. This is when he decided that he was ready to go home and shower because he didn't want that nasty water drying on his skin.. For some odd reason he though that he was getting into my car wet and smelling like fishy pond water. Now you can imagine when I told him NO he was livid to say the least.

This is when I met a different part of him, his exact words to me was" this is what I say about you; you want to be the man & the woman in the relationship" ????? so he storms off down the street on his cell phone calling whomever. I sit there for a moment to see if he was actually going to walk to his destination(1hrs walk) so after sitting for about ten minutes I left and went home; needless to say when I called him (why I don't know) you can just imagine the choice words he had for me. What startled me the most about this experience is the fact that he had blatant disrespect for me and my property, he thought in his sick little mind that I was supposed to jump up and rush him home after I specifically told him what my final decision was going to be if he was to jump into the pond. (wow) lesson learned,.

You can never tell about people of the world today, I am so glad that I never introduced him to anyone in my family turned out to be a verbally abusive individual who has no respect for women at all, why all because of a childhood trauma he experience with his own mom giving him away. I don't think this individual will ever have any respect for any woman because he can't get over what happen to him 35 years ago. I was the lucky one, I think I will continue as I have been for the past 5 years devoting myself to my kids and causes.

I ask myself was I wrong(nah)