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Ladies... thank you sooooooooo much

Good afternoon Ladies:

Thank you so much...I know that all of you are right; after all I've said many of the same things to myself. Although not quote so eloquently. But reading your words today definitely lifted my spirit...
I let the spirit of fear and despair in... and it almost had me telling him he can follow me...just to make sure he is ok..... but after reading your comments I know that would not be the best decision for me.
Thank you guys so much, You are all so very right!
I've been thinking about him and others so much I've forgotten about loving me. And that is what this is all about... loving me! and caring about me!
And i'm gonna miss him... and that is ok... but I can't save him... He has to want to save himself.

Blessings to all of you, you guys brought me back to the light!

Queen Nef

--There is no key to happiness. The door is always open. Come on in!
--Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional.

Keep on Moving

There's always a light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes you need your own space to clear your head and to settle those emotions so that you can balance yourself before making the right decision for yourself. Unfortunately we can't save those that we love when they're exhibiting destructive behavior. You have to do what's best for you. Keep moving forward no matter how rough and tough things may seem. It's going to hurt for a time for you but it's probably best that you do take some time to yourself.

I'm not sure what type of hobbies you have but you might want to consider journaling, taking up yoga, checking out the local events in your area i.e. jazz in the park, a book discussion/reading/signing at a local bookstore. Whatever it is that helps you center yourself again. Keep your head up and be well.

Courage is not the absence of feat but the recognition - Irshad Manji

Love...

yourself more than you love anyone or anything else
more than you love your husband
more than you love your children
more than you love your job
more than you love money
more than you love your own parents
LOVE YOURSELF MORE and as HoneyChile's grandma said LOVE YOURSELF BEST
GIVE YOURSELF THE VERY BEST LOVE alll day long every day

this is the mantra I use when raising my daughters

and loving yourself deeply is what you are doing right now
because we are socialized to love everyone else more...it is difficult and you do not feel a great of support for it but believe me Dear Sistah those who truly love you and want to see you spread your wings like the beautiful butterfly you are...are here for you and we support you 300%
YES moving will be hard
YES you may have rude neighbors
BUT
you will be in YOUR space and you will have PEACE Of MIND knowing you are safe and your home will be filled with the LOVE YOU HAVE FOR YOURSELF and that will make it an oasis to all who are seeking love
Including YOU
YOU are doing the RIGHT thing
and so the Universe supports you
GOD/DESS supports you
You will have all that you want and need and even more than that
Everything will be not only alright but everything will be GLORIOUS
I promise you that

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Mothering is an act of revolution!

I echo Sista Omi!

YOU DESERVE PEACE OF MIND! Know that his issues are his issues - and addiction is not something that can go away because you love him. He has to love himself enough to heal. His problems probably existed before the two of you got together and will exist whether you stay or go until he does something different. So cry is you must. Cleanse your spirit and know that even you leaving is STILL an act of love - love for yourself and for him. This may be the rock bottom he needs to seriously and sincerely re-evaluate his life. He is probably just as SCARED as you about you leaving because he knew that he could operate less than honest with you. You can't expect for him to demand better by you unless you demand better for yourself. Have faith and trust that many have been in your shoes before and made it.

In the words of my beautiful grandmother, "I came in this world with just me and God and I'm leaving by myself. Can't nobody love me better than me (and she kisses her own hand).

Know that everything and everybody is a lesson. Gravitate towards the light (not the darkness), move towards inner peace and see how strong you really ARE!!!!!

I send out light and love to you - be open to receive the beauty of life....and pray for your husband's healing but from a distance.

Living ...Breathing...Radiating...

i'm so sorry...

i'll offer something some sistas told me when i recently broke up with my partner: his healing is NOT your job.

IF he were to spiral out of control, it's not your fault, even if he tries to make it sound like it is. that's what ppl who aren't ready to take responsibility do. but don't own that.

it sounds like you've taken some brave, brilliant first steps to leaving. just keep going. seek support from your friends and family. don't let him manipulate your feelings for him--you know what's best for you. maybe after he's done some serious healing, you can rethink the relationship, but right now, you need to do what's best for YOU.

good luck, and be blessed.

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the universe is interested in your success.
you were put here to live in abundance.
your desires are sacred.