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Posted November 17th, 2007 By spirituallyfree |
I need some guidance on how to heal from an unhealthy relationship. I was in a very verbally abusive relationship. Plus my partner and I both had extra baggage from previous relationships and just in our lives period. My partner lashed out more at me than I her. I am trying to heal and I have decided to just be alone with God. Please let me give me advice on what else to? Thank you all in advance. May you all continue to blessed.
Sincerely,
Spirituallyfree
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Take your time
I was in a verbally abusive relationship myself at one point, and I know how difficult and confusing it can be, because the bruises are on the inside. I found that spending time in nature made me realize that there was a big world out there, an amazing cycle of life...it just made my problems seem so small. So I suggest a hike (even some time at your local park will do) or going to the ocean, a creek, or a lake (water has very soothing and healing qualities, even when you're not in it) go for a walk and look at the leaves changing. Right now trees and plants are shedding off old dead weight they do not need so they can begin anew. You're going through the same process, so that's something good to meditate on.
Make time for old friends you haven't seen in awhile, or visit relatives. These folks remind us of how many people we're still connected to, and lessens the void. Some type of volunteer work might also do the trick with that as well.
And most importantly of all, allow yourself time to breathe, heal, and just be. Don't try to force yourself to "get over it" before you're ready.
THANK YOU A MILLION TIMES
Thank you my sista for taking out your daily life to give me words of strength and love. I truly appreciate it. I will also follow what you said closely because I am tired of being a prisoner of my sorrow and pain. I again thank you a million times plus. I give you back love and blessings.
How to heal...
Talking to a good, wise friend helps.
Writing in a journal helps a lot, because you can't talk people to death and sometimes you need long uninterrupted and detailed venting.
Surrounding yourself with pictures, music, activities and people is a GREAT pick me up.
Taking a new hobby or finishing a project or idea is good.
Looking your best everyday is just FABULOUS! When I look FINE I feel FINE!
Comforting yourself by crying when you want to, and stopping yourself from crying when you are just being pitiful is healing.
Reminding yourself that it's not as big a deal as it seems right now, YOU WILL GET OVER IT, eventually.
And looking forward to all the good things that can happen now:
less stress
less dissappointment
and a great opportunity to CHOOSE better and DO better the next time!
Trust me..I been THERE, and IT AIN'T NOTHIN, BABYGIRL!
YOU GON' BE JUST FINE, BELIEVE THAT, cause it's REALLY true. :)
Bless,
Yes Lioness
Yes Lioness...For The Lioness You Know, For The Empress You Love, For The Goddess You Are!
THANK YOU A MILLION TIMES ALSO!
Sista Yes..Lioness,
Thank you for taking out of your life to bless me with your words of strength, hope and love. I truly appreciate it. You have touch me with so much love. I am thankful to know a wonderful woman such as yourself. Again thank you so much and I will follow what you told me as well. I live you with love and peace and many blessings.