Andre has his 'prototype', and I have mine. My relationship with Jesus/God/Holy Spirit should be the foundation-relationship in my life, upon which other relationships are able to stand firm. If there's a crack in my relationship with the Trio, than there's no reason to doubt that cracks will exist in my other relationships as well, namely my relationships with men (and in my mind, one man in particular).

It's been my experience that God will not allow you to have something (or someone) if that thing (or person) is going to distract your attention from him--that is, he won't let you have it for too long. He'll let you play with it for a little while, until you learn the error of ways, and then he'll take it away from you and make you start all over from scratch.

I really like this man (the man I alluded to earlier) and I want him as my life-partner, my husband, the father of my children, etc. BUT, I've been through enough of God's bootcamps to know that no matter how strongly I want this thing to happen, all of my desire won't do a bit of good if my focus isn't right--that is, if I allow my desires to supercede God's desires; permit the man to sit in God's chair; let the man eat the big piece of chicken (re: Chris Rock), etc.

So my epiphany in all of this--get it right with God first. Show him that he's number one, treat him like he's number one, make him number one. Talk to him like I would a lover, spend time with him like a would a lover, treat him like a lover--actually fall in love with Jesus. Not only is it good practice for me to learn how to operate within a loving relationship, but the love that God and I will weave together is the only love that will truly stand when all else fails.

Peace