The history of this country has seen world change through many lenses—many times. Our present presidential race is evident of another world change. Ted Kennedy put it this way, “The world is changing. The old ways will not do. ... It’s time for a new generation of leadership—one that will turn the pages on the old misrepresentation and distortion…"
I bring this up because many of us can relate to what our present government is about to undergo—a major life change. Those of us who have experienced such times know that change is a relentless and constant force in life that brings with it “endings.” But even more of us know the illusions of safe and secure, which is created by familiar routines and surroundings. When a particular chapter in our life ends and a new one begins, mourning for what "was" is inevitable, and suddenly, even misery looks good, simply because it's familiar. There is an African proverb that I love, which fits here perfectly, “Many of us would rather live in familiar hells, then to go to unknown heavens.”
When life demands that the old ways will no longer do and the pages of our life have to be turned, it’s hard to imagine that we will ever feel safe or whole again. But, as hard as change is, it's a prime opportunity for growth — in relationships, in self-confidence and in our own strength and wisdom. As with all major life changes we’re always required to give up something in order to gain something in return. Basically, change means we have to sacrifice certain benefits we’ve come to depend on and enjoy in order to take pleasure in the new. Letting go of the illusion of safe is usually the most difficult part of changing directions. But ultimately, we choose how we'll handle change — with resistance and negativity or with grace and anticipation. As individuals, we have an advantage over our government—our change doesn’t require a vote from congress—we just have to be willing to go to unknown heavens.
Pennie Murray is an author, speaker and ambassador of black achievement. To learn more about her work or booking information visit www.penniemurray.com
