I often feel like I have an invisible wall around myself, a shield that keeps me from the barbs that can be thrown at you from the various encounters I face every day. I suppose a good amount of shielding is a little necessary--it's important to guard our hearts and not let other people's issues become ours. At the same time, though, I feel I do this a little bit too well...I don't always feel as though I am living as authentically or vulnerably as I could be with those in my circle.
I saw a friend on the train last week and we had the best conversation we ever had. We talked about our issues and our hopes and our fears...and in such a public space as the Broad Street Line made the experience that much more liberating. After our conversation, I felt really elated and wished that I could have even more conversations with my friends like this...that I could just break down the walls and truly let people in...not worrying about how I look or what people will think.
As I thought about the experience later on in the day, I began to feel acceptance come into my heart. I began to accept that I have these walls instead of constantly feeling frustrated about them. To my surprise, that acceptance of something I so want to remove in my life made it altogether easier to handle it. I realized that the reason I put up walls is because I don't accept myself. The more I accept myself, the more I can open myself to others and bring feelings of acceptance to them.
thanks you so much.....
acceptance is a choice to empower yourself no matter what the situation....struggling with our state of being only creates barriers, imprisionment, and oddly enough, dependency to feelings that neither protect us or nurture us. I came to realize that my walls started to close in on me. Wherever I went I assume the position of an inmate. I live in a predominantly white neighborhood in the most segregated state in the US (illinois) and everywhere I go some of the white people are either afraid of me or un- comfortable around me so I use to get into my armour whenever I went out into the public. Whenever they cross the street or clutch there bag it would anger me so much!Now that I've accepted them as they are, and I as I am, its sometimes kind of comical to be around them. Sometimes I see them but most of the time I don't....
About 3 years ago I decided to be. to be me no matter what. nothing compares to that freedom! I stop to enjoy Gods beautiful creations Every Single Time I go outside, because that me! I smile at the people as they pass by regardless of there response because I know better, I'm not better than them I just know better- I know we are all Divine creations made from our Gracious Father! And its a miracle and a blessing to be here!
So I applaud you My Sista,,,,, you choose Grandly!
I give thanks for your frustration because it caused you to emerge with New inner sight!
And most of all thank you for sharing this with your sister,
stay in the light,
Peace & Grace
I truly understand and acknowledge...
...your moment of realization. I can feel that for you it is blessed, life-changing and inspiring. I wish you well on your journey toward balance in this area of your life.
Breaking
Walls...
I agree that we all put up walls.
We as black women put up walls
to get ahead in the rat race...
to protect our hearts
to protect our family
to save ourselves from the outside world.
I too have shielded my inner self from so called friends, lovers and others
So they would like me...
So they would love me...
Now days I do I have enough experience not to care what they think. I know that
I'm the one who needs to be happy with me....